Woman Expects Friend To Take Care Of Newborn Until She Decides To Keep Her Or Not

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Mayarey
Nov 26, 2021 1:00 PM EST

Life can be really complicated sometimes, and terrible things can really hit you from left field. However, we cannot unload all of our issues onto our friends and expect them to solve each and every one. Our friends are there to support us, but they are also facing their own demons, and the love and care need to go both ways. It can be extremely difficult to find this kind of balance in friendships sometimes.

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    Font - Posted by u/throwaway10sj 9 hours ago AITA for refusing to take care of my friend's child anymore?
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    Reddit user u/throwaway10sj took to the 'Am I The A-Hole' community to see if she was in the wrong for refusing to take care of her friend's child anymore. Clearly there is more to this story.

  • 02
    Font - My best friend(25F) left her bf(25M)after he found out she was pregnant and wanted nothing to do with the baby. I(26F) was furious with him but he's always been flaky so it wasn't a total surprise. She was heartbroken but decided to keep the baby.
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    Before diving into the story, the OP provides some much-needed backstory, or really her friend's backstory. Clearly, her friend has gone through hell and back. It's basically unforgivable to abandon your child.

  • 03
    Font - I helped her with ob visits and moved her into our guest room while looked for a new place. She found her own place and we helped her move in.
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  • 04
    Font - She gave birth to a beauty girl(let's call her Sarah) and I came over every few days to help her with the Sarah. A month after Sarah's birth she asked me to care for the baby for a week while she had some rest time.
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  • 05
    Font - I brought Sarah to my house and after a week Lily didn't show up to pick her up. I called her but she wouldn't respond. I go over and she won't let me though the door and tells me she needs another week and gives me some more milk. Another week later she came to collect Sarah and I thought everything would be fine.
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  • 06
    Font - After another week Lily calls me to ask me to collect Sarah again and keep her for another week. I'm concerned she's not bonding with Sarah and came over to check on them. Lily drops Sarah in my arms and tells me she needs more time off.
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  • 07
    Font - I told her I think she has postpartum depression and she needs to get help. She denies feeling depressed or having issues and I tell her it's the last time I'm taking Sarah and she needs to get herself sorted.
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  • 08
    Font - She doesn't come after a week and I can't get ahold of her so I got to her house to find she's not there. I come back the next day and she's still gone. I'm really worried and texts her that I'm calling the cops and she respond saying she is safe and not to worry.
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  • 09
    Font - I'm so pissed at this point and demands she comes back and picks up her daughter or I will call the cops.
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  • 10
    Font - She comes back and we have a huge fight. She won't tell me where is has been and just “it's not a big deal". She tells me Sarah was a mistake and she shouldn't have had her. I was so shocked she could say that about her own child and reminded her it was too late for regrets and that Sarah couldn't be returned. She offered to
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  • 11
    Font - couldn't be returned. She offered to give Sarah to me for adoption and I'm like no! She told me she was going to put Sarah up for adoption or I could keep her and she would visit occasionally. I said her she could do wants but I wont to adopt her daughter. She cries and I drive her back to my place to get Sarah.
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  • 12
    Font - My bf and I discuss Sarah afterwards and he is clear he doesn't want to raise her either but worries Lily is going to regret giving Sarah up and it's going to haunt her forever.
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  • 13
    Font - I don't want to adopt or raise Sarah permanently that I'm sure of but I'm worried she will regret giving up Sarah. AITA for not agreeing to take care of her in case she takes Sarah back?
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  • 14
    Font - I might be the asshole because she might give up Sarah and regret it forever or I could keep her and maybe she will grow attached and take her back
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  • 15
    Font - Comprehensive-Fun47 · 8h Partassipant [4] NTA. Call CPS or the equivalent of where you are. A socal worker should be able to help this situation. 979 Reply Share
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    Font - rainbowsandMetal · 8h Partassipant [1] NTA for not adopting YTA for allowing her to abandon an infant TWICE without even calling CPS. Who cares if she'll regret it, this child is better off with loving parents.
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    Font - Candy2228 · 8h Asshole Aficionado [11] Nta for not adopting her child, because she chose to keep her and she can't just give her child away like she has been doing, it's not your responsibility. Yta for not calling any version of child protection services where you live the first week she abandoned her child, and for sending the child back to her. The child is not in a safe environment if the mother can just abandon her so willingly.
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    Font - typicalaquarius · 8h Professor Emeritass [72] NTA - single mom or not, it is SUPER alarming she would abandon her newborn for a full week. It's even worse that she would do it more than once. It's time to get social services involved, it's clear she's unable to care for her child. That would also be the first step to you being a proper foster home if that's what you and her want to do.
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    Font - valerian_spiel · 8h Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] NTA. If your friend has regrets somewhere down the line, that's on her to sort out. In no way is any of this your responsibility to solve, OP. You've already gone above and beyond for this little girl and her troubled mum.
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